Friday, January 16, 2015

Love at first question?

I was catching up with one of my favorite bloggers Hallie the other day when she was recapping a NY Times article about the 36 questions that can help you fall in love with anyone.

Now if you're new to my little world, welcome, and I'm a busy girl but I like to spend a lot of my time doing this:

Love has not been something I've been good at, so this caught my interest.  The questions are intended to "accelerate intimacy" when answering with a partner, something that makes me start to sweat just thinking about it (commitment problems party of one).

Deep breathes, pretty skies, back to my happy place, and we're going to run through a couple of these bad boys.

Do I have a glass of wine while I'm answering, yes.

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else? In the shower every day and probably karaoke with the girls to bar.

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? Turn back time (cue Cher) to go back and spend more time with my Dad.  Not to even change what I did really but just to look at him longer, hug him longer. 

What do you value most in a friendship? Loyalty, ride or dies only. I've made a few mistakes in my judgement of friends (College), and I haven't taken it easily but I got through it. Most of my friends have been in my life for more than 10 years. 

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are living now? Why? I would sell the house and everything in it and travel, endlessly, then come home and stay with my mom.  I don't think I take the chance to see the world enough, I work and focus on paying the bills and what is in front of me thinking there will always be that "some day" and don't take enough chances.

How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?  My family is my everything, we're unbelievable close, warm can take some time, but usually yes.  We all have strong personalities, and very different traits.  I can 100% say I had a happier childhood than most other people's. I was always happy, I wanted for nothing, and I knew I was loved every single day.  I'm lucky.

Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom I could share....."  My life, my everyday without wanting them to go away.  My fun.

If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for  him or her to know.  I'm really OK with being on my own, I tend to prefer the quiet to the noise, and if you try to talk to me in the morning before coffee you might lose an appendage.


Well I'm uncomfortable, but I think that is the point.  The questions push you to reveal yourself to the person you do them with in order to create that closeness.

Some of them are far too personal for the world to know, but a lot of them force you to open up in ways you would not even think to.

OK so who's in love with me now? Don't all jump at once.

Thanks Hallie!


1 comment:

  1. Shower singing... Amen sister! We all go through friendships that don't last, too - that's something I've been learning myself. So glad you linked up! Loved learned a bit more about you.

    Hope you have a great weekend + 'talk' to you next week!
    x Hallie